♦ WHAT is THERAPY ? (1)..Therapia -- To Heal

...another good place to start

WHAT is THERAPY ? 

Therapia ~ To Heal ( Greek ) 

This absolutely does incorporate

a strong Human factor:

Concern, Caring, Compassion, 

Kindness, Wisdom, and 

Sacred Mental Health Skills 

AND,You just gotta' give 'it' 

a real chance.

Seriously….  

What else can I say

We just ain't got 

No easy Fix 

scripted magic answers 

to your unresolved bummer

of a nagging ongoing Depression

that constantly gets in the way of 

my life - a painful mess inside me,  

or an unmanaged mood disorder 

About What ? - 'WHY' ? - Why Me ?

Kindness: You've offered this before

for a distressed family or for friends

" If you take care of the Inside, 

the Inside will take care 

of the Outside." 

Our hearts are way open 

and full of caring patience

as you begin to cultivate 

these Buddhist-based

'Live' Human to Human 

Self-Healing Skills 

on your own. 

You've suddenly Realized: 

You've done this before.

You've done this before

You've done this before  

"I've just realized again 

that the Buddha in me wakes up !"

Therapia: To Heal ( Greek )

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raison d’etre

“The reason for being"

justification or
purpose of existence.

" The Journey Itself

IS the Destination! "

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"If you take care

of the Inside,

the Inside will

take care of

the Outside."
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IF Nothing Changes,
Nothing Changes !

“ It is still up to you to choose ~
to join with ‘truth’ or with ‘illusion’.
But remember, that to choose one
is to let go of the other --

when the way comes to an end,
then change -- having changed,
you can then pass through."  ~ The Tao

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♦ It ALL starts and it ALL ends

with 'Me' -- in My Head with Me.
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My "SELF" 

My "SELF" ? 
'The 'Self-Idea' 
The 'Idea' of a Self. 
An Identity is Wanted. 
A Reference Point. 
Otherwise I'm Lost. 
That So Frightens Me.  
So I Made All That Up
Literally, That 'Me'.
That Me Made Up This Me 
and Didn't Know I Did That. 
That Me or This Me 
or Dis Me ?  Except,
I Was Just A Kid
I Just Didn't Know
I Was Doing It. ME. 
Making It ALL Up ! 
Did I Get Stuck Creating 
A Bad Idea or What ? 
Delusionary. Just An "Idea" 
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How Do I Do "Self" ? 
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My "SELF" ?
I'm A Construction,
Fabricated Out of
My Own Wounded
'Idea' of A "Self"


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WHAT IS THERAPY ? 
Therapy is where
Two People Sit Down
and Empathically
Work On One of Them  
-- Together

SO, WHAT IS THERAPY ? 

Therapy is When 
Loved Ones Say
You Really Should

Go See Someone --
1-on-1 'Live'. Once.
Please, 
Just 'Consider' It..
'Consider' is NOT 'Must' ! 
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Friends may even suggest someone. 
Hey, 
You could contact / even come visit Me,
Akasa, Me, one time Free. No obligation.

I'd be just one of your available options.
There's all sorts of caring support around ! 
Talk with other potential counselors also--
We could Talk about that also ... 
Contact several people. Attend a talk
or a brief workshop they're giving.
II you have a specific growth-activity
like meditation, search thru that way -  
In your Core-gut-- It's all about the Fit.
Consider-Able. That You Are 'ABLE' 
That You Have That Capacity ! 
Shop this one well.

Again --

“ IF Nothing Changes,
Nothing Changes ! “


Look, You Have To
Change Something
-- even your socks.
It's OF Your Own Making,
that ACT of Change ITSELF
is Already Changed
That Gets Change Rolling --
Battery dead or engine stalled.
Find another source of Power.
Then, First you Rock the Car--
then you Push the Car --
then you 'Pop' the Clutch,
Engine sparks and kicks in 
Releasing Car into Gear
and get Rolling !  Do it.

... And p[ease, please really do not expect that only a few sessions will 'Fix-It' for you --and be sufficient. Strong toxic negative patterns in us all tend to defensively. 

Repeat. 

Life  Begets Life / Thought Begets Thought-- Traumatic Negativity has a Life of it's own and wants to persist. Continuance. Wouldn't You ? 

'Defenses' don't quit easily. With frequent guided Calm observation Mindfulness sitting practice balanced with personal Insight Therapy-- you will keep Softening the Grip-- you will keep Opening the Big 'Clench' in your Fist --in your Innocent Body of Stress.. But NO expectations--please. Negative Repetitions: revolving Karma-patterns of just feeling bad-- sure, they'll continue to be here for awhile. Just show up, don't try to 'achieve' --and be patient.

Sweetening the "Letting Go" process itself-- even more and your stuff just obsoletes itself-- and drops, it wants to drop, good --and you keep allowing it to drop away. With Dignity and Respect. Honoring the The Lessons Learned from the Experienced. 

"All The Time Awareness" strengthened through more frequent meditation - can bring you the basic experience of an 'Emptiness-based view' of 'Whatever the Ever Present Moment offers' -- which is paradoxically getting to be more here for you -- instead of something not here for you. Let's be creative with your Suffering -- since un-creating it just doesn't seem to work on the Unreal.  

The situation requires a 'Trick' -- the Tao says: "Like Attracts Like".  Your  developing, innate "Wisdom-kindness" finds it really LIKES Wisdom-kindness --and so begins to develop a whole new relationship support structure for you around "Wisdom-kindness" itself like a new best friend-- But NO expectations. Negative Repetitions: they'll always show up for you, especially to feed --until now.

'Betrayed Expectation' is partly how you got here in the first place-- maybe so disappointed, so devastated, and feeling so isolated in all this, try'in to Self-Heal your impossibly wounded heart. You will come to discover a really Big Truth living at the bottom of almost everyone's suffering-- and that truth arrives as a deep personal realization --and a sharp pointed stick as a reminder of time fleeting, when you're asking your big question: How Long does therapy take ?

Here's the thing: Working on yourself by yourself, your embedded suffering, your badly bruised Spirit, your confused denial of early damage, your almost defeated 'Essence of Being' itself. You've taken such a subconscious subtle beating-- so by now they are deeply rooted Toxic Feelings that took your whole Life-time to develop -- you will certainly need to give it a reasonable amount of time for you to turn it around. That's it. Please simply recognize and realize that !

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Mindfulness meditation practice can make the whole ground of mind friendlier and more available for you to at least consider change. Buddhist Insight Therapy understands Conflict in all it's forms-- conserving 'Calm' instead of wild or numb Reactivity-- instead, you cultivating a workable, wise, kinder inner-structure to give you much more room to See.... So you can truly begin to really SEE. Seeing now better than ever -- brings better clarity and complete understanding allows Letting Go to Happen. Even More !

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” Whatever the Question,
'Kindness' is the Answer.”

~ The Dalai Lama

"BAD FEELINGS that Took

Your Whole Life-Time
to Develop Dysfunctions
-- Will Certainly
Take Some Time
to Turn Around”
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... AND AGAIN, YOU JUST GOTTA' GIVE 'IT'

A REAL CHANCE - IF YOU TAKE CARE

OF THE INSIDE, THE INSIDE WILL

TAKE CARE OF THE OUTSIDE -

IF NOTHING CHANGES,

NOTHING CHANGES ! “

So OK -- HOW LONG

Does Therapy Take ?

• What Kind of Therapy ?
• How Many Visits ?

       Some say it's endless... probably is

Fortunately For Us • One of the very most classic of the Therapy-gained experience, of Uncompromised Truths --comes to each of us as a deep personal realization and a pointed reminder -- or the Wrong end of a Sharp pointed stick, or that working on yourself, and your bruised and bashed in soul is starting to restore --Wounded Feelings that took years, your whole life-time to develop and to reinforce - and will most certainly take time to turn around... Sorry for this High Psychology Gospel and It's True ! -- and actually so. FEEL it in yourself.

We'll be looking at  Triggers and Buttons, Unexplored Illiterate 'Thinkings' and How Unconscious Thoughts, Unobserved Feelings and Actions Rule. Karma: Mistakes Get Made, and How the Elements and Conditions of Contributing Conditioning factors Outside yourself Work. The Butterfly Effect explored.

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TALKING: That's Why I offer you
a totally FREE phone consultation -
We need to talk First - before coming
here for the first time: as Client, Patient, Mentor/Mentee, Student, Counselor, Chela, Tutor, Intern, Coach, Parenting and Partnering, Samanera, Volunteer, Novitiate ---  It May Be Expensive or Moderate or Pro-Bono, or Volunteer, Personal Assisting, Scholarship, or Hosting, Friend. Human to Human Buddhist-based Inner-Restorative Work, Healing and Dying.  

This MUST Organically Come Together for you as a very, very sensitive 'Human' thing. 

The 'Therapist' or a 'Counselor' you find 
is a very special new 'Human' in your life.
Beginning 'Therapy' is sort of a Journey 
into an unusual professional Blind-Date.  

Do you two even 'Like' each other ?

And please --

So go easy on the immediate impulse
to judge or evaluate these first few
session impressions. So give a fresh new experience a fresh new chance ...!

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 " What is accepted

by the majority of people -
does not mean it is Real." ~ Buddha

‘Awakening Mindfulness Meditation Practice’
Buddhist-based 'Alternative' therapies as a way - complementary to contemporary psychotherapy to Heal the Discomforted Mind, Wounded Spirit or Disheartened, Despairing Relationship ~ all in the midst of our very edgy, over-driven, survival-stressed Uncertain Times

‘All-the-time-Awareness’­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­
NECESSARY IN THESE UNSTABLE , 
SO UNCERTAIN  TIMES ~ 

AN  AWAKE, AWARE, 

ALERT  MINDFULNESS

SAFELY HAS  OUR BACK

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” It Was The Best of Times, 

It Was The Worst of Times,

It Was The Age of Wisdom --

It Was The Age of Foolishness,

It Was The Epoch of Belief -- 

It Was The Epoch of Incredulity,

It Was The Season of Light -- 

It Was The Season of Darkness,

It Was The Spring of Hope -- 

It Was The Winter of Despair,

We Had Everything Before Us -- 

We Had Nothing Before Us,

We Were All Going

Direct To Heaven --

We Were All Going

Direct The Other Way.

In Short, That Period

Was Just Like 

The Present Period.”

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Sir Charles Dickens
“A Tale of Two Cities

a novel (1859)
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“And then the day came

when the risk to remain

tight in a bud

was more painful

than the risk it took

to blossom”   ~ Anais Nin

" So, What Happened ? 
Not Enough Really 
Good Stuff Happened. 
What an Early Let-down."

IT HAPPENED. 
I EXPERIENCED IT. 
IT REALLY SUCKED. 
IT WAS ONLY 
GOOD ENOUGH
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" I DIDN'T GET
ENOUGH LOVE
AS A CHILD "
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How Come ?
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Analysis says: 
It's All An Unintended Set Up

By A Child's Own Unconscious of 
“Future Communication Failures” in Contradiction with The Opposite 'Experience' of TRUE Feelings That When
Actually Experienced -- Actually Felt Like Irritation or Actually Felt Like Love.
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‘Know What ?’ --

Everybody Elsewhere

Everyone Everywhere

Didn't Even Get Close To 
ONCE GOOD ENOUGH.

ONLY Once was Virtually  
A Fading 'Promised Love' 
and a Massive Sigh...

That Failed So Naturally 
in a Stress Anxiety Depression

Confused Misunderstanding.  

A "Supposed-to" Bonding
in a Consistency of LOVE 
-- That Just DIDN'T FULFILL … 
And That Didn't Even Have the 
Slightest Scab of a Voiceless 
Rejection of an Unconscious 
Sort of Un-Lovableness 
Picked Down To the Cuticles 
to Even Be Worthy of 
a Soothing Explanation. 
Poor Starving Thing. 

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The World Too,
is In Deep Dismay,

It Painfully Suffers 
The Worst of Misery --

The Most Disparing   
'UNDESIRABLE' TOXIN

That Crippling Notion: 
That I Am Definitely 
UNDESIRABLE -- 
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The # 1. FEAR of ALL 
for EVERYONE -- 
We ALL Carry It 
The Fearful Within
Where Nobody 
Was Given To 

in Open-Hearted 
Generosity.

ONLY NOT 
WITH-HOLDING. 
ONLY REALLY GOOD-ENOUGH is

Acceptable 
ONLY GOOD-ENOUGH
ONLY CONSISTENT  LOVE

ONLY RELIABLE LOVE Love. 
As A Cuddled Child Absorbs 
Mommy’s Just Not A Lover.­­­­
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Hardly Anyone 
Got Through It 
Un-Depressed
and Unscathed. 
BUT It Did Get Us 
THIS FAR -- By 
The Simple Grace 
of True 'Appreciation', 
Gratitude, Heartfelt 
Acknowledgement 
and Acceptance
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Here's The Thing: 
To Be Undesirable
is Not Desirable --
and Just Not Lovable.
"But Mommy/Daddy
I Bring You ALL of Me"
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An Individual Person
May See Themselves as Un-Love-able to Partner
or Inept at Love-ability 
or Too Moody or Unstable
At Core, Too Close to 
Self-Created Remedies 
They Tried Therapy 
They Naively Wanted Me - 
But Just A Little Bit,
Just 'Not Enough'
It Left Me Craving,
Just So Hungry
-- A Very Needy
Little Child
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Everyone's Classic Fear:
The Dreaded Curse 
of 'REJECTION' and the 
"Not Good Enough-mind"
Dukkha: The Buddhist
Suffering In The Fear 
of Impermanence Anicca
That Strikes Any One
Any Body Any Where
"Any Which Way
Six Ways to Sunday"
-- Any Damn Way
ANYWAY, I Hurt. 
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Leaving Me Needy,
Angry and Confused
( Loba, Dosa, Moha ).
Mind-FULLY Aware
Yes, It Felt Like That.
Not Remarkably New
The Refined Mind Floats 
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'Cept If You Can Teach
Yourself To Begin Loving
YOURSELF, First of All
-- Buddha said: It's
Gotta Be YOU First !
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So I Sincerely Asked --
" Which way is The Way ?
The Way Outta' Here ?
-- Completely ? -- Done."
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Someone Pointed
n' said Confidently
"That-a-Way" and
Pointed East.
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"EASTERN ORIENTALIA" is coming to a Simple Peace and a Gentle Calm --strongly considered as Spiritual ‘progress’ -- is central to almost all the world's renewed inner-development Wellness technologies, as so many revived ancient Healing traditions are effectively healing us now - just look around - thru using rediscovered body-mind prescriptions, skillful applied body-work exercises, a better nourishing diet and wholesome mind-cultivation teachings to apply these Dharma technologies - let's call it the 'Diet Exercise Meditation' formula. Everyone is doing some version of it these days... And Yes, looming Questions DO concern you about How Long Do Different Therapies Take ? - and that certainly needs a reasonable, responsible response from me -- Hey, You came this far already ! 

BUT Dear Friend, that's the good news --
Please HEAR this -- We’re not going to spin a spiritual soothing placebo answer for you rooted in your chronic healing On Demand Needs -- your Ego-self's Holy 'insistent' privileged need to know the Nirvanic outcomes of this final mental / emotional end game. Please hear the angst in your inner-voice ‘tone’ -- mindfully hear your petulant whine in your reactive strident suffering -- 
It ALL has to be Let-Go... Gone ---

So, You Can Finally
Go Inside and Find Out Who You Are NOT 
AND keep going back again and again and again onto that meditation cushion -or- into that therapist's chair to find out -- Yes, keep Mindfully going emotionally way inside and be mindfully Aware all around you in the living-surround to find out the latest curve in your ongoing Painful Resistance which you do not have to renew. 
Every Question Will ( Not ) be answered today -- then again, Therapy Takes Time.  
~ Billy Bo Sat .. 
also see Rilke's "Love The Questions."

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" Hurt people Hurt people "  ~ Noah Levine

Kinds and Types of Therapy and a Caring Rant !

Fortunately, at last -- there are so many really effective varieties and kinds and types of applied therapy, counseling, mentoring, coaching, guidance and spiritual direction. Hopefully we will continue as a perpetually progressive nation -- actually we always have -- that finally is beginning to see and practice many forms of a more mature tolerance and compassionate, crucial, critical deep healing - with the guidance of warm, wise hearts on the part of health care professionals everywhere. 
It's a terribly damaged world simply due to certain uninformed, unnamed political forces and certain ruthless, unnamed brutal religions that support egregiously glaring, flagrant, gross, shockingly ignorant, misunderstood human social ethics, and basic human rights - unkind, horribly aggressive, imperialist conquests and subjugation of innocent people the world over - people in poverty now still suffering the totally unnecessary, devastating physical and psychological legacy of past criminal human abusive actions within their misconstrued, suffering cultures -- we can talk more about 'Tikkun' ( To Heal the World ) as the Hebrew philosophies call it -- a moment of rant is now over. Thank you for listening

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 “ Tikkun Olam ” To Heal The World

Here are the Names ( so you have an available 'word-list' to use ) for various social issues, community situations, mental health circumstances that may ask for your attention: any individual word -- no more than 3 or 4 together -- can be used as a Keyword to get you onto Google and do a 'Search' -- SEARCHING is the great miracle tool ! Just type in a word or two into Google:
Spiritual Growth and Transforming Life-Events
of Mental and Family Health Resources and
ask for Therapies or Counseling specializing ask for Therapies or Counseling specializing in
Gender-Identity Counseling
O Sexual Dysfunction
O Sexual Abuse Issues
O Disability Issues
O Psychosomatic Issues
O Analytic Psychology, O Psychology of Consciousness, O Spiritual Traditions, O Buddhism, O Taoism, O Kabbala, O Gnosticism, O Sufism, O Yoga, O Shamanism.
O Issues Involving Death, Dying and O Spiritual Emergencies, O Mindfulness Meditation and other forms of O Calming Meditation and PTSD treatment. 

O Cognitive Behavioral Therapies

O Disabilities, O Illness and Loss, O Grief, O Depression, O all Addictions, 
O Family Therapy
O Jungian-Oriented Therapy
O Existential Therapy
O Gestalt Therapy
O Transpersonal And Humanistic Therapy
O Object Relations
O Transactional Analysis
O Addictions  O Life-Threatening Conditions,

O Relationship Issues,
O Sexual Preference and Gender-Identity Issues, O Scapegoating, Shame and Blame,
O Critical Incidents and Trauma,
O School-Related Bullying Work and O  Lack of Career Issues,
O O Stress Management Issues way across the board
 CBT type of
O Substance Abuse Counseling
O Child And Elder Counseling
O Psychopharmacology
O Crisis Management
O Stress And Anxiety Management
O School-Related Bullying
O Sexual Preference and

“ Tikkun Olam ” To Heal The World

Access and availability of counseling or a social worker's input - can be extremely beneficial to clients - not just in helping them recognize their problems, but by giving them the names of various "strengths" to use to heal -- working with compassion, love, skillful wisdom and intelligent letting go.

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So also, here on these pages are some pithy 'sacred snippets' to help you facilitate good Questions for yourself. I say only ‘good’ because I’d rather not overly feed the question for you with any more description, but let it arise by itself in 'your' present moment purely by itself while on your cushion/or in your chair, and you may have to wait out your suppressions and loosen the belt of your 'withholds' to let them peek out and slide to the surface. Please Wait , and that takes time. Like the ironically named Calcutta Rapid Express:  “I can sit and wait.” -- and Hess's Siddhartha really “could Sit. Wait. Meditate.” said Kamala, his patroness. Let the "enlightenment" it come to you. My teacher Munindra-ji always said -- "Wait" - just wait, just wait....

Heart-felt, Buddhist-based counseling sessions and Mindfulness Meditation-based therapies being utilized in the professional psychology milieu, are now specifically designed to be an applicable ‘THERAPY’: in Western psychology, that we’ve never actually seen this sort of a massive shift-over into niche, yet complimentary attitudes prescribing ancient supplementation, in what was considered to be ‘Religion’ -- or be it now natural organic medicines, be it now the Big Box stores pallets full of Omega D3, be it stress reduction mindfulness meditation studios, , zazen cushions or yoga mats at Cost-co....

HooRay ! --
Here’s  another huge, significant, progressive step for contemporary 'secular' -- yet spiritual-influenced medical science -- and the huge contemporary spirituality crossover that is occurring at this time. Building a comfortable, safe, skillfully applied secular base to maintain a clear, unencumbered, practical workability of the 'process' you will be getting into... In other words, In Loving-Kindness and fathomless appreciation we can dump the Buddha. 

 [ Kill the Buddha ] is a famous ancient folk-tale

 “Language Is All We Got” !  All individual words in every culture’s language can be ‘Contemplated’ / ponder, mull over, deeper ecstatic consideration, sitting somewhere in silence - with so much rich goodies packed into even a mean man’s bag of bad words --- that too can be 'contemplated'. Well meaning ideas can really help you, but can also hinder you with ready made answers. Keep asking Questions !

 Remember folks

 As Rilke said:
“Love the Questions Themselves”, Instead “ 

see Rilke link

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For PRACTICE / Amazon Reading / YouTube watching

See Jack Kornfield's old book ‘A Path with Heart’ and ‘The Wise Heart’See Mark Epstein's books / Elishia Goldstein books, Kabjtt-Zinn, Spiritrock.org -- List coming soon.....

'Contemplative Repetition’ is a practice -- and Reading and ‘Pondering Dharma’ next to frequent Meditation is one of your best practice friends.

“Change Your Mind, not necessarily your situation”

Read to yourself the quotes on this page and a good little Beattie book on Affirmation Practice.

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UNFINISHED from here on -- plz go read more at other parts of this odd site -- Enjoy!

OK ~ So, How L o n g DOES 'Therapy' Take ?

Then again, there are a lot of "basic conditioning factors" involved.

Hidden on these pages, in these savvy poetic quotes that 'prompt' you

to see better, experience deeper, are some forthright responses to this Question: How Long ?  Contemplate this… what comes up, arises, what shows itself ???

 • Therapy Takes Time and Therapy Takes Effort.
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“ It is still up to you to choose ~
to join with ‘truth’ or with ‘illusion’.
But remember, that to choose one
is to let go of the other --

when the way comes to an end,
then change -- having changed,
you can then pass through."      ~ The Tao

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 Remember folks…
The Buddha said ~
“Ananda, you are finally
coming to your SENSES" --
Your body Sensations
-- and using them as
you would mark a book,
Watching the nuances of

what we call ‘triggers’ or

‘Waking Up Objects’

like the face of your

alarm clock to help

us notice, observe
to watch, to mark,

to forget, to care

to accommodate
and be aware of…

and then to make

a poor choice --.
Of course…

Practice…

The Struggle of

Living Through Things
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When wiggling through a hole,
the 'difficult' world looks different ~
than when scrubbed clean
by the wiggle and looking back. 

 ~ Mark Nepo 

“ I love you, gentlest of Ways –
you who ripened us ...
as we wrestled with you.”

~ Rilke on Buddhism ( Paris 1908 )

“ Individual people
stumble over pebbles,
never over mountains. 

~ Emilie Cady

…How Long ?
It takes Time…
T I M E . T I M E . T I M E .

 How Many Visits ?

.. How Long Does

....'Therapy' Take ?

......This is a huge

........indefinable

..........indefinite

...........question
............ It take
.............T I M E .

Again. . . .

How L o n g Does 'Therapy' Take ?
Well, What Are We Lookin’ at…. ?

LONG term, SHORT term --  

to WHAT DEGREE, to what DEPTH,,

and HOW MUCH RESISTENCE, STRENGTH.

How Much jerking around, justified defenses,

sly seductions, sabotage, grace and charm.

How you absorb, distort and metabolize stuff,

ideas, process thoughts and create thinking --

and moving around in your world…  We do need to explore
your operating system’s
relationship with "People"

We need to explore
your relationship
with "Achievement"

and "Accomplishment"
and private Experiences

and costly Expectations
of personal Satisfaction

and inconsolable Loss

... stuff like that.
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"Where are you coming from, Man…

No, not the Beach, I mean in your head"  

Feelings are a major influence factor: Everyone knows that. There's a whole assortment of human cultural artifact in the language, mood and tone we are using in even the most simple utterance: "How Long is IT going to take ?" -- based on "Who" you 'think' you are. You’ think’ you are your Self at least --at best.

Of course you are you - you are your own Paradigm: you are your mind-set, your identity thinking, your privilege thinking, your entitlement thinking, and your resentment thinking of even just being here. 

Yes, your generosity, your kindness, your appreciation thinking - your Everything. And you thought you were in control, in charge. There are so many ‘contributing factors and conditions’ called Karma. And like this is already ( sigh ) going to take even some more of My Precious Time -- and our upper income middle class values pull us around "to being served" -or- “serviced” -or- “serving” .Assuming that there’s satisfaction involved here, somewhere. Buddha points us towards looking at the fact that maybe satisfaction and desire are at the causes of suffering itself. It’s NOT about getting rid of stuff but how we ‘hold’, how we do possessing / possession, owning itself. We all still have such a poor peasant mentality. We got it ass backwards again…  "Or to really being served where -- I am the meal itself !"

I Am MEAT: Actually, I'm always the end product of being served up: Me -- Self-serving Me--- Me Serving the Famous Trio of “ Me My Self and I “ -- at 'my best' every 93 seconds, serving and pleasing, serving and pleasing, serving and pleasing - Yet, I'm the friggin Product itself-- and I’m paying for this !?! I’m paying to be a test product. I’m a ‘sample’. How could there not be resentment waiting for some dark night for some alone time to arise, so I can tell myself a numbed out ‘story’ to survive. And there's of all this constant palm device fidgety tremor energy personal status 'adjustment of walking around in this world of micro-seconds of constant never ceasing monster stressors for each one of us. This goes on inside absolutely everyone. Buddhism is not against any of this ‘having’.-- Buddhism is Not culture and Not counter culture, Buddhism is simply just watching   

Oopps, someone’s latte just fell off
the roof of their Honda…
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Head Healing / Head Shrinking is not just in your therapist’s work-space -- but what you put into it in your day to day -- call it the ‘All-the-time-Awareness’ towards a spacious, clear and richer mindfulness that opens you for a much more aware Living Experience of Living. You've gotta plan on giving it some really open-ended exploratory time – Honestly: I really don't know - it's really person by person. Inner-Healing of any kind takes its own time, takes its own texture – individually, person by person, situation by situation. And it's 'Teachable ! Certainly one session is not enough to be effective and semi-lasting except as a basic introduction for the client and counselor to simply check each other out.

AND for the client to 'confirm' for them-self - that they are hopefully doing something good by the active decision itself to seek counseling. In a preliminary session - maybe I can observe the tip of a a basic 'diagnosis'. Maybe. Maybe I can inform you in a few first sessions what we may be looking at as to how "a therapy" might develop, or maybe I could refer you somewhere that could work in a better balance with your particular needs. Maybe..... Let's just consider seeing if even a common ground of open communication exists – and might grow between you and me, your counselor.

"You gotta' give 'it' a chance.
What else can I say?...

We just ain't got
No easy answers..."

Therapy takes Time
and therapy takes Trust and Risk.
One of the most classic
therapy-gained truths is ---

FEELINGS that took your
whole life-time to develop -

will certainly take
some time to turn around.

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That's why I offer a FREE phone consultation -

First - before coming in here for the first time.
Inner-Healing MUST be a very, very 'Human' thing. 

A 'therapist' or a 'counselor' is a special new 'human' in your life. Beginning 'therapy' is
sort of a professional Blind-Date.  
Do you two even 'Like' each other ?

And please --
So go easy on the immediate impulse to judge
or evaluate these first few session impressions.

So give a fresh new experience
a fresh new chance....!






WHAT IS THERAPY ? Therapy is where two people sit down and empathically work on one of them -- Together. And, Please, Please do not expect only a few sessions to be sufficient: 'Betrayed Expectation' is partly how you got here in the first place... Disappointed and feeling alone in all this, try'in to Self-heal your difficult issues and wounded feelings -- you can come to discover a Big One of history's most classic therapy-gained Truths - that comes as a deep personal realization and a sharp pointed reminder of 'time fleeting' --when asking How Long does therapy take ? Here it is --
Suffering: Negativity -- Working on yourself, your difficult issues, bruised emotions, wounded feelings, early damage --these are toxic beliefs, negative feelings, moods, tones, attitudes and behaviors. These Sufferings took your whole Life-time to develop --and will certainly take some amount of time to turn around.
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The Creator ~
♦ WE 'Created' It --- Then Pixies
Came Along and Put It Up Online.
Where do you think it came from ?
The Sacred Mind/Body Process
called "Spirituality for Creatives"
Working the 'Creative Ideation'. 
It Comes From With-in You.
You're What's So Sacred ! 
Except there's trouble now 
in the Holy Household
of Your Mind.  Uh-Oh...    ~A~

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‘All-the-time-Awareness’

 Beginners Very Welcome !

  

“ If Nothing Changes,

Nothin
g Change

raison d’etre

“reason for being"

justification or
purpose of existence.

" The Journey Itself

 IS the Destination! "
__________

raison d’etre

“reason for being"

justification or
purpose of existence.

" The Journey Itself

 IS the Destination! "
__________

 

‘All-the-time-Awareness’

 Beginners Very Welcome !

  

“ If Nothing Changes,

Nothin
g Change

raison d’etre

“reason for being"

justification or
purpose of existence.

" The Journey Itself

 IS the Destination! "
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THE MEDICINE BUDDHA

HEALING FAMIY

of SANGHA ~ 

BUDDO-HO ! 

"If you take care

of the Inside,

the Inside will

take care of

the Outside."
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IF Nothing Changes,
Nothing Changes !



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